Patience is still a virtue

We live in a society where people are used to getting things instantly. Fast food, instant movie and music downloads, everything at the touch of a button.

That has unfortunately created a group of people that do not understand that everything cannot be instant.

I am sick and tired of people who do not understand the concept that you cannot snap your fingers and expect things to happen. People who just want what they want when they want it and give no thought to whether it is even done properly.

When you represent a company, brand, group, or what have you, it makes sense to take your time and do things properly. When you just rush into things without thinking them out, you end up with an end product that is shabby, shoddy, and looks thrown together (because it is).

I was raised on the concept of doing things decently and in order. Yes I could easily rush through most things and get them done, but I prefer to take those extra few moments to make sure they are done properly. This is especially important when you are talking about things that other people will see and know you by.

You only get one chance to make a first impression. When you rush things and just put any old thing out there, that is what people are going to associate you with and that is not a good look.

You want to go rush into things without thinking them through, that is your business, go right ahead. Do not, however, look to someone else (or me) to fix things because they are not what you wanted.

Change is good

Hi there, it is I. Yes, I haven't done this in a long time. Mostly because I figured it was better that I not say all that was on my mind to say. However... I had this wonderful life moment/emotional breakdown (semantics...) where I realised that everyone else was saying and doing what they pleased, so why was I being so concerned about what others would think about what I said and did? (cue Jeopardy music) So, I made a few changes and now I am ready to start having and living a life. To that end, I will be saying what it is on my heart to say. While I will never be intentionally cruel or hurtful, I will be truthful, and sometimes the truth hurts. Be Blessed! That is all.

Nope. It's you.

Seriously. It is you. No one else, just you.

You are the fundamental problem.

People don't like you because they have a problem, and the problem is you.

They are tired of it being only about you.
They are tired of you never thinking about anyone but yourself.
They are tired of you always blaming everyone else for your shortcomings.
They are tired of you making everyone else look bad with your crazy behaviour.
They are tired of you always trying to be the star of the show.
They are tired of your laziness and irresponsibility.
They are tired of you treating them like a second thought.
They are tired of you wanting them to treat you like a priority.

In short they are tired of YOU.

Get over yourself and return to the real world.

That is all.

Pots and Kettles

Lately I have been noticing an interesting trend where people would want to condemn someone publicly for the same behaviours and acts that they are committing privately.

I know that double standards are the norm in this day and age, but it still surprises me that people can be such hypocrites. My mind is amazed at how quickly people are willing to throw each other under a bus in order to keep the spotlight off of themselves. Or how easily they will tell someone "you shouldn't do that" when they know they are sitting at home or in the streets doing the same thing.

What I think irks me the most about it all is the fact that they act as though no one realises what they are doing, or if people realise it that for some reason it is to be over looked and we should all just play along with the farce. Really? Really? I call bull on that whole notion.

That is all.

Back on the Block

Welp, it has been a hot minute since I have been on here, but there is just too much foolery going on and I can no longer hold my peace and be still. I also do not have a piece of steel to take folks out with so...

Right back into the fray we go.

To my next door neighbour's kids: SHUT UP!!! Take a damn paxil and calm the hell down. Are y'all doing River Dance over there? Sheesh.

To Mr. Softee Ice Cream man: Really? Really? Was it even 55 today?

To the females of the world (and especially Brooklyn): You ain't fooling nobody. If you were in an accident your own momma wouldn't be able to identify you cause of all the fakeness going on. There is nothing wrong with fixing yourself up nice, but the Barbie look is not the business.

To the church folk: You need Jesus.

That is all.

For now.

Familiarity Breeds Contempt

I think I am slow. Well actually, I don't. I just feel that way when faced with certain people and their particular problems.

So let me get this straight, mister man or sister gurl treats you like you are expendable and only remembers that you exist when they want something. They take you for granted, and make you a non priority in their life. You do everything for them, go out of your way even, and they don't even acknowledge it. You put 110% into the relationship (friendship or otherwise) and barely get .00674% back. The relationship causes you nothing but stress, heartache, and or annoyance, BUT YOU WILL NOT WALK AWAY!?!?!?!?

Sorry to say it, but you are a fool. Yeah, I said it. You are a fool.

If you willingly let a person walk all over you and take you for granted, whether that person be friend, family, or loved one, then I call you all kinds of a fool. All you are doing is giving that person permission to use you. When they know they can do what they want and you will just roll over and take it then you better believe they are going to go about their business without giving you any thought.

Letting yourself be used is not the business, and when it happens and you realise it, the first thing you should do is run for the hills. I never understand when people bemoan how this and that person causes so much trouble for them, but they will not walk away from the person. I don't understand this phenomena of "oh he/she did me dirty, but we are still friends". Really? REALLY? R.E.A.L.L.Y!!!

If someone is in your life who is no good for you, LEAVE THEM ALONE! Walk away and keep it moving.

That is all.

What is love?

Hello all, hope the new year is treating you well so far.

So, a friend and I have been having a random running discussion on the subject of true love. Now my last comment on the subject was that they way I see it, "true" or "real" love wouldn't and shouldn't make you say or do foolishness.

Now to be clear, I understand that when you are in love you may do silly things and goofy things like wearing matching outfits, falling asleep on the phone together, goofy stuff like that. But in my mind, goofy and foolish are two different things.

Goofy makes sense, foolish does not.

True love shouldn't make you hurt people.
True love shouldn't make you doubt.
True love shouldn't make you angry.
True love shouldn't cause you to lose friendships.
True love shouldn't make you cynical.

In my opinion true love, real love, should make you a better person, not turn you into someone you never wanted to be.

So that begs the question, what is love?